Bhai-Dooj - Celebration of Sister-Brother Relationship - (Celebration series - Part 6)14, Nov, 2012, by Seema Bhatnagar
* The picture above has a special significance. Red and yellow colors are the most auspicious colors during marriage celebrations and other festivals of Hindus. The symbol "Swastika" signifies the continuity of life and considered as the most auspicious symbol for happiness and prosperity at home.
Mere mentioning of words, "brother" and "sister", remind us of those sweet memories of childhood. How those petty quarrels about grabbing the bigger part of a pie or a chocolate, grabbing a toy and dictating ownerships, were some of those lovely everyday realties ending into sweet rivalries. Despite these petty quarrels, at the end of the day, the most trusted relationship was of sibling. Siblings are the significant part of life, sharing memories of growing up under the same roof and under the same authority of parents.
You will never find anyone else in this whole world with whom you can the share the sweet and bitter memories of growing up in the same environment. The same environment here means the similarity in taste of food, clothing, values and culture given in a family.
Bhai Dooj is celebrated on the second day from Diwali, also the last festival of the celebration season. It marks the celebration of bonds of love between sister and brother. It is an occasion that reminds brother and sister about the childhood bonds of sweet love and trust.
For the celebrations, sisters put a tilak (a vertical mark of red paste put with thumb on forehead, between the brows) on brother's forehead and wish for his long life, health and prosperity. Tilak, signifies the auspiciousness of the occasion and victory. Customary, tilak signifies the victory, means the victory over enemies and all other evils which are the blocks in one's success. As a token of love, brothers offer gifts. It is a family gathering during afternoon time and everybody enjoys the sumptuous lunch prepared by sisters.
Bhai dooj and personal development
Having sister or brother at home could be an insight for many important aspects of personal development. The first insight is on leadership, that starts during childhood when the elder one takes a lead and teaches younger one about the tips and ways to do simple activities. The first lesson of friendship and sharing of personal qualms starts at childhood with brother and sister. It teaches that despite having petty quarrels and rivalries, one can still trust each other by forgetting the past.
The most important aspect is, learning to respect and understand the opposite gender right from the childhood and it is indeed a great learning for life. Brothers get to know that sisters are sensitive and they must behave with sensitivity with them and sisters get to know that brothers are bit aggressive and they learn to handle it accordingly. This insight helps throughout the life in establishing future relationships. On the social aspect, respecting opposite gender with full acceptance is a great gift to society, as it helps in bringing gender equality.
If you have a brother-sister relationship, celebrate it in a perfect spirit of personal development. Strengthen it with love and respect for each other.
Wishing you a very happy bhai -dooj. May your bonds of love and trust grow and you may prove as a pillar of strength to each other.
Diwali - Celebration of life. (Celebration Series - Part 5)
Ahoi Ashtami - Celebration of Motherhood (Celebration Series - Part 4)
Karva Chauth - Celebration of love (Celebration Series - Part 3)
Dusshera – Celebration for victory of good over evil.(Celebration Series - Part 2)
Celebration of Feminine Power (Celebration Series - Part 1)