Win the world with confidence.

5 June, 2011, by Seema Bhatnagar

When did you last feel great about your achievement, felt overwhelmed about performing in a competition or after giving an excellent presentation in your office, or simply felt happy after doing something very well? Just hold yourself for a moment and feel, what kind of energy you experienced in all those moments. Didn't you feel positive about yourself and had a strong feeling of unlimited power inside you and felt like undertaking that task once more. If you could recall all those moments of triumphs you would find yourself working with the best of your capabilities, skills with a positive state of mind. If you see any successful individual around you, you would find one common quality and that is, perfection in skills and the ability to use those skills. You pick any leader you know and you would see him/her using skills to the best with a positive state of a mind and exuding positive energy in the environment. If you have felt it deeply this is what confidence is all about.
Confidence is that state of mind in which you have complete trust in your abilities and you can exercise those abilities in the toughest of situations. It is a key to become successful in any sphere of life be it career, job, business or personal relationships.



Build a strong relationship with yourself

I have seen people failing in life due to lack of confidence. There are lot of people who even after preparing very well for an event face failure, just because they lack confidence in themselves.
Sometimes you must have experienced that if you are afraid of something, only that specific thing confronts you and you fail at that moment. For example, it might be that you have a fear about scoring well in mathematics and you prepare well for an exam with the fear that you do not know the subject very well. Since fear is a demon, it raises its head and kills your confidence exactly when you are attempting your exam. Eventually, you forget even those topics which you prepared quite well. Another good example could be of facing job interviews, you are nervous about what tough questions might be asked and there is one area in which you are not good enough and do not have well developed skills. When you face an interview, you were asked only those questions which scared you most and due to this you could not answer questions about topics which you prepared well, as a result you landed up failing in interview. Similarly, we can list several such situations where you avoided or ignored one thing and only that confronted you at a crucial moment.

The basic foundation of great confidence is a mastery of skills. As represented in an image below, confidence is the top most layer and is based on an underlying layer of mastering skills, you may have many skills and abilities but your real confidence comes from the mastered skills.


The real and only possible way to enhance confidence is to overcome inherent fears and master personal skills. Once the skills are mastered you would be able to face challenge in any sphere of life be it a career, job or personal relationship.The fundamental goal is to develop self reliance on our personal skills and abilities.The more self reliance you have the more confidence you have. Most importantly, you are developing a strong relationship with yourself. You are making yourself strong enough to be relied upon during any tough situation in life. How do you feel when you rely on your friend and discuss your problems? Deep down, you trust him/her and have complete confidence in his/her abilities otherwise you would not have thought of contacting him/her.

Many people are afraid of making mistakes and give in at the first failure. If you are making mistakes you are in fact taking lessons to master the subject. Mistakes or failures are our teachers for mastering skills. So make mistakes and try to learn a lesson from each mistake.

Nobody is ever born perfect in this world, we all have certain weaknesses and strengths in our personality, people who work on their strengths experience more confidence and success in life as compared to people who brood over their weaknesses. Whenever, you are facing troubles in learning something new, imagine how many times you failed before becoming skilled driver, excellent swimmer or cyclist. Behind every success there is a hard practise. These are all examples of our learning capacity and of building confidence.

Tips to build confidence

All above tips will help you to build your confidence. Personally, I keep experimenting with new things and new routines and have tried almost all these tips on myself, my favourite one is to explore the unknown. I find it quite exhilarating that give me double boost of confidence, though I am not lacking confidence but enhanced confidence makes me stronger and more courageous.
I would strongly encourage you to work on your confidence and become self reliant because when you are in tough situations in life, you find yourself very weak and alone, then, it is only YOU and your confidence that work together to bail you out from situations. All such situations make us realize that our confidence is an asset and gives that inner power through which we can win the world. Your commitment and dedication towards building confidence will not only boost your confidence but would also improve your self esteem.

If you are a parent, help your children to become more confident and more self reliant about themselves, if you are a mentor, encourage your fellow beings to enhance their confidence.

Remember, confidence is contagious, the more you exude it, and the more it will spread. Go and win the world with your confidence.

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Live a happy life.
Seema
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, Blogger, Writer, Life Coach and Founder of Abundance Thinkers, site for personal growth and development. Empowering people in achieving and living the best of personal potential.

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